How Low Self Esteem Takes Away Your Life

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Identify the symptoms of low self esteem, and see if this is the real cause of much of stress and heartbreak in your life. The problem is hard to identify, is the root cause of many other problems, and often the sufferer puts the blame on every other thing around him except himself.

Symptoms of Low Self Esteem

Go through the following symptoms of low self esteem and see if you can identify some of them:

1. You are never sure of yourself in social situations. You look at others before reacting your giving your opinions—rather it would be more appropriate to say that you don't have any opinions. You prefer to be guided by the others, and are always afraid to speak up your mind, fearing that you might be committing a blunder, or that you will make a fool of yourself.
2. You are not comfortable in social situations, as you are always worried about what other people might be thinking about you. You easily feel embarrassed, are shy and prefer the seclusion of your house or the company of a few select friends, who never criticize you.
3. You are always internally criticizing your each and every action. You prefer to believe in negative opinions about you rather than the positive ones. You are always dwelling on your perceived shortcomings, and develop a 'knack' of overlooking your strengths and positive points.
4. Low self esteem makes you dependent on others – for approval, guidance, encouragement, appreciation, etc. You do not feel confident of embarking on your own on any project. You always feel the need for some other person. This might make you overly dependent on some one person.
5. Self esteem is different from self confidence. You might have expertise in some area and yet suffer from low self esteem. Many high achievers are people suffering from low self worth. You might also be aware of many high achievers who suffer from anxiety, depression or some other personality disorder. Such high achievers, though extremely successful in their chosen fields, often make a wreck of their personal lives, and end up without friends, without a spouse, without children, without reputation and sometimes, without money. Such high achievers learn to play by the 'rules of the game', and go from one success to another, to convince themselves about their own worth, often at the cost of family life and all other aspects of life.
6. On the other extreme, people with low self esteem may remain under achievers, because they are never sure of their capabilities, and because of their fear of failure. They don't have faith in their own ability to manage things and take decisions in unforeseen circumstances. They are afraid to take up positions of greater responsibilities where they will be called upon to take lead and face uncomfortable situations.
7. Since, these people are never happy with what they are and what they have, they are often very critical of their spouses and children and make their home an outer projection of the internal hell they live in.

Live Life True To Your Self

It is clear that people with low self esteem live a highly stressed life. The greater tragedy is that this problem often remains unnoticed and unrecognized as a 'low esteem problem' by the person concerned and those who are near to him or her. Often reasons of unhappiness are attributed to life's other circumstances.

It is our duty to us that we live life to the fullest and achieve our true potential in life. Remember what Buddha said, ' Since everything is a reflection of our minds, everything can be changed by our minds.'
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Guide to building high self esteem to live a low stress life.

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Following are the best tips to low self esteem takes away your life

Stop comparing yourself to other people
Don't keep putting yourself down
Accept all compliments graciously
Mix with positive and supportive people
Acknowledge your positive qualities and skills

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Always appreciate yourself.
Don't look at others because you are unique in your own way.
They can be more beautiful, intelligent and skillful, but remember they can never be you.

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Always appreciate yourself.
Don't look at others because you are unique in your own way.
They can be more beautiful, intelligent and skillful, but remember they can never be you.